Abaholi Nobuholi: Indlela Yokuba Umholi Oqaphile

Amadada. Bazibona kanjalo abaholi abaningi. Noma ungathanda. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani ngaphansi komzila wamanzi, abonakala enganyakazi, ezolile, eqoqiwe, ekhuthaza ukwethembana, ugqozi kanye nokuzethemba. Amaqembu abo acela ukwehluka.

23–JUN–2023 | Speak Your Mind!: Ungaba kanjani umholi oqaphelayo – uChris Galea

Umbono vs. Ongokoqobo

Umbono womholi uqhelelene neqiniso.

Amaphesenti angu-7 kuphela abasebenzi abakholelwa ukuthi abaholi abacindezelekile bahola amaqembu abo ngempumelelo, futhi amaphesenti angu-11 kuphela abasebenzi abanabaholi abacindezelekile abamatasa kakhulu emsebenzini.

Kodwa ingabe kuyamangaza? Bheka izinselelo abaholi ababhekene nazo namuhla. Umongo esiphila nesisebenza kuwo ushintsha ngokungapheli. Isikhathi silinganiswa ngamasekhondi amancane. Kunezithiyo ezintsha, eziyinkimbinkimbi zezomnotho namasiko emdlalweni. Sinamathisele ngokungajwayelekile u-24/7 kuxhaxha lobuchwepheshe obudala ukugcwala kolwazi kungasaphathwa ingcindezi kanye, okuxakayo, ukuzihlukanisa. I-paradigm eyodwa ngemva kwenye iyashintsha. Umthamo wolwazi esinawo uholela kokuncane kunokuqiniseka okwengeziwe. Inani lamaphimbo nemibono esingayizwa kunoma iyiphi indaba likhulu kakhulu, silwela ukumane sibhekane nakho, ingasaphathwa eyokulalela ngokweqiniso noma, izulu lingakwenqabeli, siqonde.

Kuhlakazekile. Ihlukaniswe. Ishayisana. Ekhungathekile. Ukucindezeleka kugcwele. Isikhathi silambile. Ngazo zonke izindlela eziningi esiphazamiseka ngazo, siminyanise umuzwa wethu, futhi sihlukanise ukunaka kwethu, singadlula kalula ezimpilweni zethu zonke ngaphandle kokuletha wonke amakhono ethu nokunaka kunoma yisiphi isikhathi.

Ukunakwa okuyingxenye okuqhubekayo kuyakhathaza futhi akuphumeleli. Kukhawulela amandla ethu kanye nekhono lokuhola ngobuchule. Kunezikhathi eziningi kakhulu lapho sinomuzwa wokuthi sicisha umlilo noma simosha isikhathi kunokuba senze umsebenzi wangempela, ingasaphathwa eyethu umsebenzi ongcono kakhulu. Singakwazi yini ukulindela ukuvelela kobuholi lapho sichitha izinsuku eziphelele ku-autopilot?

Cha. Eqinisweni, asinawo amandla adingekayo - ngokomzimba noma ngokwengqondo - ukucaca, ukugxila, ukungahluleli, nokulalela ngokujulile, ngokuqonda, ngokuphelele kithi kanye nabanye.

Kodwa esimweni esikhulayo sokuncintisana - esivumelana nezimo, esisheshayo, esisheshayo, esiyinkimbinkimbi - ukwenza izinqumo ngezingqondo eziphazamiseke kakhulu, ukusabela esikhundleni sokuphendula, ukwenza imisebenzi eminingi esikhundleni sokugxila, akuseyona inketho.

Izindaba ezinhle? Ukucabangela kufakazelwa ngokwesayensi ukusiza abaholi balawule ingcindezi, benze izinqumo ezingcono, futhi basebenzisane kangcono nabanye abantu, futhi babe abaholi abaphumelelayo. Konke lokhu kunciphisa ukucindezeleka kwabasebenzi, kudala indawo yokusebenza engcono, futhi yebo, kuthuthukisa iphuzu elibalulekile.

Ukusebenzisa Amandla Okucabanga

Kuyini Ukucabangela? Kalula nje, ukwazi ngokugcwele nangokungenamibandela nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. Awuthonywa ulwazi lwesikhathi esidlule, awuthonywa amathemba nezilindelo zesikhathi esizayo, awuboni okuningi noma okuncane kunalokho okukhona ngempela, hhayi ngezahlulelo ezingakuholela ekuphenduleni okunemibandela. Kodwa ukumane ube namandla okubona imanje njengoba sinjalo ngempela, njengoba siqhubeka, sihlangana nesikhathi ngasinye ngokulingana... ubumsulwa bamanje.

Ukusula ingqondo yakho yokuchema, ukwahlulela, iziphazamiso, imfuhlumfuhlu, kuvumela isikhala sokucaca, umbono, ukuzola, ukuzethemba, ukulinganisela, ukugxila - futhi ngaleyo ndlela kunikeza inhlanganisela enamandla eyingqayizivele yamandla nesiqondiso.

Kuphinde kusivumele ukuthi sifinyelele izinsiza ezingake zisetshenziswe - amandla kanye namandla abantu asetshenziswa kancane ngenxa yalowo mthwalo wokuphazamiseka, ukuchema nokwahlulela.

Kunokuba inqubo yomcabango ekhanda kuphela (esebenzayo, enengqondo, futhi egcwele amasiko aqulekile asibambezela futhi avimbe ushintsho), isivumela ukuqwashisa kanye namandla okucula ukuzwa kwamathumbu, umuzwa wemvelo, umuzwa, ukuqonda ngokugcwele. komongo, yiba nombono ocacile, futhi ubonise ngokuqiniseka okungenakunyakaziswa.

Indlela Yokuba Umholi Oqaphelayo

Umholi ohlakaniphile ukhetha ngenkuthalo ukuhlakulela ukuqwashisa, ukugxila, ukucaca, umbono, ukuqiniseka, ubuciko, nozwelo.

Kudinga ukuthi uhambisane nalokho okwenzekayo okwamanje.

Kudinga ukunakwa okuphelele nokuphelele ngaphandle kokwahlulela.

Kusho ukuthi ukhetha impendulo, kunokusabela njengoba izinto zenzeka. Kusho ukuthi usebenza ngamandla.

Unokwakheka okuhle kwesimo. Uzizwa uxhumene nabantu abaseduze nawe. Uhlanganyele ngokugcwele, kokubili ingqondo yakho yesokudla nesobunxele. Nawe unamandla, futhi lawo mandla ayathelelana nabanye. Futhi kanye namandla, unesiqondiso esicacile.

Ngokulandela izinqubo ezilula ezicija ukunaka kwakho kanye nokuqaphela kwakho okwenzekayo emzimbeni nasengqondweni yakho nganoma isiphi isikhathi, ungasebenzisa wonke amandla akho namandla akho.

Uhlu lude futhi kufanele lwenziwe lube ngelakho kulokho okuncamelayo ngakunye, ukubambezeleka kwesikhathi nokunye, kodwa ukuze sikunikeze izibonelo ezine kweziningi zokuthi lokhu kubukeka kanjani:

1. Ukungahluleli

Lokhu kuchaza umkhuba wokunaka ngokungakhethi. Sivame ukubona izinto ngokwethu, okudala iveli phambi kwamehlo ethu. Kubalulekile ukuqaphela lokhu kuthambekela kokwahlulela (okubonakala kuza ngokwemvelo kwabaningi bethu), kodwa hhayi ukuboshwa yikho.

Ngamanye amazwi, kubalulekile ukuthi siyeke ukwahlulela izinqumo zethu. Uma singabuka nje izahlulelo zethu, sizivume, futhi singahluleli ukwahlulela, ngokuxakayo, singase empeleni sibe sendleleni yokungabi nakwahlulela futhi siphile impilo eyiqiniso!

I-2. Ukwamukelwa

Umkhuba onengqondo wokwamukela wuhlelo olusebenzayo lokuqaphela izinto njengoba zinjalo hhayi ukuthi sifuna zibe kanjani. Sibamba iqhaza ekuzameni ukushintsha izinto ukuze zivumelane nathi ukuthi singavumeli ukuthi kube nje.

Ukwamukela, ikakhulukazi izehlakalo ezingemnandi noma ezimbi, imicabango, kanye nemizwa akulula (isib. ubuhlungu nokuhlupheka). Ngaphambi kokuba ukwazi ukubhekana nobuhlungu empeleni, udinga ukukwamukela futhi uvumele ukuthi kube njalo. Leso isinyathelo sokuqala esibalulekile sokwelapha. Uma usuzazi ukuthi umi kuphi, ungasebenzisa okwakho ukuhlakanipha kokuthi ungasishintsha kanjani isimo futhi uthathe isinyathelo esifanele.

3. Ukubonga

Sivame ukuthatha izinto eziningi kalula ezimpilweni zethu. Kunesidingo esikhulu sokuletha ukubonga esikhathini samanje, siqaphele ukuthi sibusiswe kangakanani ngokuba sisaphila, imizimba yethu isebenza ngokuvumelana okuphelele: ukubonga ngokuba namehlo angabona, izindlebe ezizwayo, izandla nezinyawo ezisebenzayo! Ukukhumbula lezi zibusiso kubaluleke kakhulu.

Kodwa-ke, ngokuvamile sifinyelela kulokhu kuqaphela lapho kukhona okungahambanga kahle, ukulimala ngokwesibonelo, okusiqhubezela ekubeni sicabange futhi sibale izibusiso zethu. Umkhuba wokubonga ugcina ukunganaki futhi ukhuthaza umoya wokwaneliseka ngokuphila.

4. Ukupha

Okokugcina, sinomkhuba wokuphana, ukunikeza isikhathi sethu nokunaka kithi thina nabanye, sibonisa ukuthi siyakhathalela, sithuthukisa umuzwa wokuxhumana. Ukuletha injabulo kwabanye, ukulwela ukunikeza abantu lokho okungabajabulisa kuyaziwa ukuthi kunezinzuzo eziningi ezingokwenyama nezingokwengqondo (ngabhala ngalokhu esihlokweni sangaphambili).

Akudingeki kube yinoma yini enkulu; kungaba into elula njengokumomotheka umuntu ongamazi, okungenzeka ukuthi ubenosuku olubi futhi ubengasebenzisa ukumamatheka okunomusa, nobungane.

Isihluthulelo sokuhlala sizolile futhi sizinzile ukukhothama futhi samukele lapho sikhona ohambweni lwempilo, ngaphandle kokwahlulela nangozwelo, siphephile ngokwazi ukuthi silapho esihloselwe ukuba khona nokuthi izinto ziyokwenzeka ngokwemvelo njengoba zazihlosiwe. ku.

Ubuholi bubalulekile, kodwa ubuholi obuqaphile buyabuphakamisa.

Ukuthatha okubalulekile:

• Abaholi bavame ukuba nombono osontekile wokuphumelela kwabo, kuyilapho amaqembu abo ethola ukuntula ukwethembana nokuzibandakanya.
• Ukucabangisisa kuyisixazululo esifakazelwe ezinseleleni abaholi ababhekene nazo namuhla, ukubasiza ukuthi balawule ingcindezi, benze izinqumo ezingcono, futhi bakhuthaze ukubambisana.
• Abaholi abahlakaniphile bahlakulela ukuqwashisa, ukugxila, nokucaca, futhi bakhethe izimpendulo kunokuba baphendule ngokungananazi.
• Ngokuzijwayeza ukuqaphela, abaholi bangakwazi ukusebenzisa amandla abo angakasetshenziswa, babonise amandla athathelwanayo, futhi banikeze isiqondiso esicacile, bathathe ubuholi babo bubeke ezingeni elilandelayo.

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Chris Galea ungumholi webhizinisi ophumelele, oziqhayisa ngesizinda esibanzi nesihlukahlukene esihlanganisa iminyaka engama-35 yolwazi lwabaphathi abaphezulu ezinkampanini ezivelele emazweni angaphezu kuka-75. Ngesisekelo esiqinile njengomqeqeshi oqeqeshiwe oqinisekisiwe, uChris uphethe kokubili iziqu eziyisisekelo nezithuthukile, okuhlanganisa nezitifiketi ze-PCC ne-ICF. Ubuchwepheshe bakhe busezindaweni zokuThuthukiswa Komuntu siqu kanye ne-Executive Coaching/Leadership Development. Ukwengeza, umnikelo kaChris obalulekile PRODIREKTiqembu ubuholi kusukela kusizinda sakhe esibanzi sokuqeqesha kanye nolwazi lwakhe lwangaphambilini ezindimeni zokuphatha eziphezulu ngaphakathi komkhakha we-ejensi yokukhangisa.

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